Starting a new relationship can be an exciting time and you might have high hopes for your budding romance. It’s important that you don’t get carried away too soon though and you don’t let your heart completely rule your head. With this in mind, here are a few of the more practical things you should bear in mind when you’re getting to know a new partner.
1. Are you taking risks when it comes to sexual health?
Let’s face it, discussions about sexual health can be a real mood killer. However, unless you’re prepared to put your wellbeing at risk, this is a topic you’ll have to bring up at some point. If your new partner’s had unprotected sex with other people, there’s always a chance that they’ll have picked up a sexually transmitted infection (STI). Worryingly, not all of these infections show symptoms. For example, chlamydia is the most common STI in Britain and most people who have it don’t experience any symptoms. Other common infections include genital warts, genital herpes and gonorrhoea. To be completely safe, it may be wise for both you and your partner to get tested for STIs. It’s easy to book an appointment at a sexual health clinic, and some GP surgeries offer tests too. You can even get tests for a range of STIs online.
Even if you’re confident that neither of you are infected, it can be nerve-wracking actually waiting for the results. Fortunately though, there are simple and effective treatments for many STIs and some of these can be prescribed by trusted sources online if you want a convenient alternative to going to your doctor. For example, you can get genital warts treatments from LloydsPharmacy Online Doctor, as well as treatments for chlamydia and genital herpes.
It might feel awkward and embarrassing to bring this topic up with your new partner, but it’s essential if you want protect your health and have peace of mind.
2. Are you both looking for similar things?
If you’ve been swept off your feet, it’s easy to lose sight of the practicalities, but before you let yourself fall any deeper, it’s a good idea to investigate whether you and your new partner are both looking for similar things in life. For example, do they want to have a family? This can be a particularly complex issue if you’ve already got kids. Is your new partner willing to be part of their lives? Try to make sure you’re also on the same page when it comes to everything from your approach to work to your attitude to finances. Your ideas don’t have to be identical, but they must at least be compatible.
Discovering that there are big differences in your outlook might be tough and it could lead to heartache now, but it’s much better than having this realisation later when you’re even more emotionally involved.
3. Do you have enough in common?
You might really enjoy spending time with your new partner, but before you commit to a proper relationship with them, ask yourself how much you really have in common with them. What sort of hobbies do they enjoy? How do they like spending their weekends and holidays? If there’s not enough shared ground between you, the gloss could quickly start to wear off your relationship. For example, if you love spending time with friends and family but your partner’s not especially sociable (or vice versa), tensions could build between you.
Considering issues like these might seem a little unromantic, but it could save you upset further down the line.
*A collaborative psot